WATCH: A Sooke mom is speaking out after becoming the target of horrible online bullying. It all started when one of her blog posts was picked up by Yahoo and what happened next is shocking. Tess van Straaten has this CHEK News exclusive.
With three kids under the age of five, Sooke mom Amie Kay has her hands full.
She’s in the trenches of motherhood and about a year ago, she started blogging about it after realizing she was only posting things to social media that made her life look perfect.
“I’m not some unicorn woman who has everything together,” says Kay. “You just see the 20 minutes we got out for a walk so I wanted to be more open and I think it’s needed in this age of Pinterest moms where there’s a lot of pressure to be a certain way.”
On her blog, Mommy’s Inside Voice, Kay tells it like it is.
She was brutally honest in a post about her wedding day last year.
Her face had swelled up from an abscess and her heartfelt account was recently picked up by Yahoo News and Diply.
But Amie wasn’t prepared for what happened next.
Internet trolls started attacking the mother of three, calling her names and posting hateful comments.
They even tried to slut-shame the well-meaning mom because she’d had her kids out of wedlock.
“The one that really made by stomach turn was telling me I should have shot myself and my kids before walking down the aisle,” says Kay. “That’s when I was like, wow. I couldn’t imagine the kind of people who would say things like that.”
Online bullying and nasty comments all too common
But unfortunately, social media experts say it’s all too common.
“I think you’d be hard pressed to find somebody of almost any age who hasn’t had some kind of abusive comment online,” says Social Media Camp co-founder Paul Holmes.
Even more disturbing, Holmes says it’s not just trolls being abusive online.
Far too many people hiding behind keyboards and phones post things they’d never say in person and Holmes says that’s got to change.
“It starts with abusing public figures like politicians, celebrities and journalists, who are easy easy targets,” explains Holmes. “But as civilized people, we need to check ourselves to make sure we’re not doing that and if we see friends or family doing that, we need to talk to them about it.”
Speaking out like Amie Kay is doing is also important to raise awareness about the damage online bullying and harassment can do.
“I’m hoping that by talking about it, people will be nicer online,” Kay says.
And the Sooke mom plans to keep being a mommy blogger because if she quit over the mean comments, the bullies will have won.